Over the last 15 years of tracking relationships I’ve discovered a pattern. There is a season when men seem to focus on their long-term relationship status. I don’t know why this appears to be happening doing this period and it is unscientific and informal. However, based on my tracking this period is between September 15th – January 31st. The demographics are as follows: never married men between the ages of 24-35, depending on the area. In the South it is between the ages of 21-35. Other ages during this period are 29, 39, 49 and 59. Please note that men 40+ are more marriage minded depending on their situation and will settle down again quicker if married before.
While researching for my book, I noticed that a man during this period will start hunting for his wife or wifey potential. It doesn’t matter if he is with another woman or not! I call this the marriage minded period or season of love. If he is with a woman and not happy, this is the period when that relationship will take a nose dive in his mind. BUT! This is also when a man will try to do right by the woman he is with making small gestures toward improvement.
What does this means? Ladies, if you love a guy in this age bracket depending on his situation, please check your attitude. Notice small changes and efforts. Why? Well if a man has been with you for a while and there were ups and downs, he will want to reward you for staying the course. He already knows if you are wifey potential and have already seen himself with you. He will try to improve his relationship. This is the period that he will want you to let go of the past and notice what he is trying to do—he wants to become serious. Please notice small changes. If you do NOT and constantly on his case about past acts or not trusting him, especially when he trying to change, you will LOSE HIM doing this period. He will not see you as wifey potential for HIM anymore. Yes, he may still be with you but will start hunting for someone he has NOT messed up with or will judge him on past acts. You just have to make a decision: If you are going to be with him, then you have to let go of the past otherwise, all of your time and investment will be loss on someone who will not judge him. Sad but true.
If you do not have a man, this is the period when marriage minded men are on the hunt; and it will not take him long to make a decision about you. You just have to be ready and available. Available means that there are no other men luring around because he is not looking to compete at this time. He is looking for easy prey that is marriage material. Once he locks in on you as potential wifey, he will be serious and it might frighten you. Most women lose good marriage minded men doing this period because of fear and a disapproving spiriting. Men do not wait around too long to soothe your fear.
Today’s message: Evaluate the man you are with as long term potential. Instead of wasting your time with someone you know won’t be good for you, become ready and available for one who will do right by you. Also if you do NOT have a man, keep yourself ready, available and open for the love of your life, he is on the hunt right now.