Jan 12
10
Professionals Struggle Too!
I recently had a discussion with a small business woman who left her husband who was a doctor for a warehouse foreman. Think about that. Now tell me if you are thinking this about the warehouse forman: “He must be packing, a hunk or super fine, or she is probably paying his way? Did that come to your mind?
Here is a secret for you; many professionals are struggling financially these days. They have huge student loans and many feel pressure to appear to live at a certain financial standard. For example, they must have an acceptable home in a classy area or car that’s appropriate to their title.
Guess what? She left this professional because she was tired of balling him out, paying his way and he did not have time to cultivate the relationship. He was in private practice and almost lost everything for them. Additionally, he was never around because he had to pick up additional work to meet payroll and pay office rent.
This warehouse foreman salary was actually just a much than her professional husband brought home because of loans and his goal of saving his medical practice. He had a better credit score too. Now can you believe that?
Here is the deal, professionals need and want love too and this not a put down. My goal is to make sure you are not overlooking individuals because of titles. Titles will NOT keep you warm, company or provide you financial peace of mind. It could provide the reverse.
Today’s Message:Check your requirements to what really matters.
Make sure that you look for a mate that can meet your needs and not your ego. When you think about it, too many with money or titles are just as miserable or their titles is not producing much due to their person al financial struggles. Pick traits that are long lasting and if they happens to be a professional doing well, that will be a plus but not the standard.
Dec 11
30
Gossip Is A Relationship Killer!
We all are guilty of wanting to hear some juicy gossip or negative news about someone and this social norm is here to stay. Yes people are getting paid from it because the demand is great. Please don’t front and say that you are not like that because unless you live in a box, you get and want to hear a little gossip too.
This message is NOT about the gossip we hear but more about what one do with that gossip and its dangerous nature.
• People are killed from gossip.
• People commit suicide from gossip.
• Families are torn apart from gossip.
• Children lives are destroyed from gossip.
• Careers are destroyed from gossip.
• Gossip is a relationship killer!!!
Knowing this why are you so burning to pick up the phone and call someone to say something negative about someone else or about their relationship? Is it because they are your family, boy, girlfriend and you don’t want them played? NONSENSE, you are just unhappy with YOUR current life and want others where you are deep down.
Therefore, this is what I discovered about people who are always telling what they see, gossiping and butting in other lives.
• They live an empty life with serious financial and relationship struggles.
• They are serial whiners complaining about everything and everyone.
• They brag about their lives and their information but it is mostly embellished.
• Most of them have health issues.
• They usually pick up weight and it mainly goes to their stomach or waist area.
• Take a look at the vehicle they drive, it is usually not in the best shape or looks
• beat up.
• When they dress up, their look appears dull even if they have on bright colors or
• new clothes.
• They are NEVER in a position of authority but if they are, it’s a low level job and
• they are not trusted or liked by anyone around them but the managers who
• they tell too.
Now, stop and think about those who gossip and tell things around you, take a look at their lives, and see if you can detect the same thing. Do you trust them? Are they experiencing the same ills I’ve just described?
Gossipers kill relationships around them. It could be your mother, sister, brother, aunts, uncles or friends. For me as a coach, all of the relationships that were destroyed happened due to gossip and tell-a-tellers. Even though wrong was done, it was a friend or family who picked up the phone to tell. It has torn up families.
Are you guilty of this? Want to improve the quality of YOUR life? Stop gossiping! It’s killing you too.
One more thing; if you pick up the phone to tell a friend or family member about what someone they love is doing, YOUR relationship with them will NEVER be the same!!! You are not helping yourself, or the person you are telling it too because Gossip KILLS ALL RELATIONSHIPS!
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